SO the husband has known about my birthday being soon for the longest time. I have been more or less saying flat out that I want something nice done for me for my birthday. So he's been acting like tht's no big deal; however, today on his lunch break, he called to tell me that he wants the cingular synch or the black jack because they are on sale and he wants to be added to my family talk line. Ok first off I have only been getting him prepaid because of the last few cell phone fiascos he's caused. Then of course right after the whole tirade about the phone, he tells me that he won't be able to do anything for my birthday tomorrow. He says it'll have to be next week because he didn't save any money back for it. What pisses me off thoroughly is that he hasn't had to use much of his check this week because I've used my money to pay for all of the bills. You know, I guess I just really wanted to have some one make a fuss over me for one day since no one really did it for mother's day. Yeah I got a ring and all, but the only person who really went out of their way to make me feel special was my cousin Andrea. Oh she took Bethany for the afternoon, they had a girls day and when she came back they had printed out pictures of Aiden and me together, and then made a picture collage and put it in a beautiful frame for me (I so about cried and I think I've already mentioned it but oh well).
Anyways, I would have been happy with a special dinner at home, or having some friends over or something. I guess I just feel all blah about this. I had to rant don't mind me.
We'll throw you a party here, Jess! Here's cake and champagne for you, and a full day of maid service and babysitters for the little ones. Have a great day, hun.
I'm late to the party, but wanted to join in. That really SUCKS!!!
Not to worry... Sometimes husbands merely need to be "retrained". If they understand that foregoing a gift or a small celebration can wind up costing them more (both moneywise and otherwise) in the longrun, then they're more likely to remember the next time.
Allocate yourself a certain amount that you don't mind spending on your belated event, and then set yourself up for a day of manicure, pedicure, and shopping for any glittery little bauble that makes you happy. It doesn't have to be expensive -- just a pair of flashy earrings that you wouldn't normally buy for yourself, or a new perfume you've been meaning to try.
Then, go back home, and show your husband the new loot. THANK him sweetly, and PROFUSELY for it! Then, go have a nice long soaky bath, and take a nap!
About twenty-five years ago, I had to do this once at Christmas. Believe me, it ONLY needed to be that once...
I also remember when Susan Lucci told a story on The Tonight Show about buying herself a pair of diamond earrings that she had giftwrapped, and put under her own pillow. She opened them in front of Helmut and thanked him. LOL...!!! Gotta love La Lucci.
Happy Birthday!
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