I told you all here that yesterday we interviewed for care-givers, right? Well one lady, the one I had high hopes for, said something that has bothered me since it popped out of her mouth.
On the front page of the newspaper yesterday was a large picture of a brand new Hindu temple that was built on the northwest edge of town. It cost millions, carvings came from India, blah, blah, etc. Anyway, we were making polite small talk and the temple came up. I said that the congregation that built that temple had been meeting in warehouses in Toronto's west end and that a few years back we were fortunate to be invited to their Dawali festival, and how much we were impressed by the hospitality and general loving nature of all the people there that we had met.
This one lady sat bolt upright, scowled at me, and said that we weren't allowed to DO that, as Christians. I asked her what we weren't allowed to do, and she said visiting another's place of worship was forbidden. HUH???
Anyway, that and the fact that she's still in love with her former dead employer, is on separation pay and wants cash only (so the government won't stop her payments) and my parents wouldn't be able to claim her salary as a deduction, I have to eliminate her from the very short list.
Am I being over-critical here? I just can't shake the creepiness of her response.
I would have eliminated her. I know I am not sposed to say stuff like this, but I hate Christians who are like that. Man she would hate me, there were a lot of times when i was in the Navy where a Catholic service was all I could get to because of where we were, so I went. I didnt do communion but I still went to the service, I suppose that makes me less of a Christian..I dont know.
And besides, the whole thing about her only taking cash is a little fishy anyways.
Thanks, Shelly. In retrospect, she kind of gave me the willies.
The old fellow she had been taking care of used to live across the street from us when I was growing up. He had a bunch of kids that I went to school with. We knew him as Mr. X but she referred to him as Dr Y. I asked her since when did Mr. X become a Doctor, and she said that it was conferred upon him by a university for excellence in business, and he changed his last name back to the old fashioned one before his family immigrated to Cannda. Okaaaaay.
Well, the man wasn't very well respected in the neighbourhood because he split off his property and sold pieces of it to a developer that put up a few of those gawd-awful monster houses. Then he asked the city to buy his house and use it as a museum. The city wouldn't, so he left, moved into another area of the west end. He was a hige egotist and the fact that this lady worshipped him also gives me pause. He died a horrible, long and painful death. Karma, I guess.
KaeEll, Go with your gut and don't even second guess yourself! I think that the comment was out of line, and it would not have sat well with me either. I do not necessarily think that the manner in which someone choses to express their faith, meaning their religion, is as important as having a faith and a belief in the almighty.
The whole under the table thing sounds slightly fishy also. I'm sure that there would also be some type of liability issues associated with that, if she was to hurt herself on your parents property. Here in the states, you can add insurance liability coverage to a homeowners policy by adding a worker's compensation endorsement, which basically covers household help, which a caregiver falls under. Without that your parents could be potentially exposed to a lawsuit, although I am not sure if it works the same way in Canada as here in the states.
Yes, indeed! Thank you Tess. The under-the-table business is a real WHOA NELLY.
I'd hate to have to pay the agency fees but under the circumstances, we might just have to. My father doesn't like to spend money that way, so this is going to be a huge struggle, I'm afraid. Ugh.
Where do I start? First of all, the woman is dishonest. She's trying to cheat the government, and she doesn't care about your parents' ability to claim their payments to her. BIG, HUGE strike against her. I wouldn't want someone who is dishonest anywhere around my parents or their home.
Secondly, she's a bigot. I wouldn't want someone with that kind of attitude or that kind of temperment around my parents or their home.
Thirdly, she's a very misguided "Christian". The last time I looked, Christianity was all about tolerance, inclusion, and being understanding of one another.
Run, KaeEll, run...!!!
-- Edited by Moore ideas at 17:00, 2007-07-08
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i'd have been pointing her out the door before she finished that ridiculous religious statement w/a thank you for sharing as i slammed the door behind her. did an agency send her b/c if so i'd report her! this is not someone you want in your parents home....if she'll cheat the government w/o a bat an eye she'd do the same to your parents.
kris
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See, I would have thrown her out the door when she first started her religious babble, especially after her grand stand-up. The rest is just icing on a cake that needed to be tossed a long time ago. Good choice on her removal.
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OH my gosh I'm goin to Hell!!! If this lady's right, I've had Christianity so backwards. I always thought that connecting with those of different faiths and loving even those who are not saved was GOOD and lying and cheating in order to make more of a profit was BAD. Hmmmm so I wonder what her stand on a few other things are because well, if she can help me pick and choose commandments an christian morals to follow, it'd be great.
It's finally resolved!!! We're hiring a young lady from Guyana through an agency to live in with mom and dad. Whew! That wasn't fun geetting through to my father, but it's all set.
And I spoke to that kooky woman again this morning. I told her thanks but no thanks and she said that for FREE she would like to visit my mother and offer her "spiritual guidance". I said she must call me first before dropping in and I think she got the message.
Thanks for all your advice and support. We're doing this all by the book now, all contractually correct with forms to submit to the feds for tax breaks, etc.
Congratulations!!! This must be a HUGE load off of your mind.
As far as the nut case is concerned, she just needs to go away, and stay away. I seriously doubt that she would be an appropriate "spiritual advisor" for your mother or for anyone else on this planet!
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I convinced my father to sell my mom's brand new car (600 kilometers on it) and use that fund as the live-in account. That made him feel so much better about the expense. It ought to cover a year and a half and by that time, who knows what the circumstances will be.
