Thanks, Tina! Cute graphic! So what's up for today?
I have to do the bed linens (a regular Sunday thing), bum around a bit, then go bbq at my parents' house late afternoon. We have a list of 11 things that need attention there, and as usual, it will be a big pain in the ass to get my father to give the okay to attend to them, control freak that he is. I'm losing patience and energy. I honestly wonder how my mother put up with him for so long.
Here's my list:
Get a working cordless phone so mom doesn't have to hobble to the kitchen when the phone rings.
Fix the shower in the guest suite, ie. convince father to let me call a plumber.
Find mom's cell phone and reactivate it. (It's hidden and nobody can "rememeber" where.)
Replace curtain runners in master br.
Move clutter of bills etc. to family room from kitchen table.
Change a series of light bulbs from 40 to 100 watt X 7.
Purge pantry of really old food.
Install cable TV in 2 places - ie. convince father to call the cable company rather than "do" it himself.
Initiate Gateway Grocery online food delivery, ie. convince father to try it rather than having me run all over hell's half acre buying them food every day. Meals on Wheels is great, but you still need bread, milk, eggs, toilet paper, Tide, etc.
Extract money from father for the groceries I have already bought for them.
Organise the replacement help for Indira's days off.
Set up an email account on my computer for Indira. (Has anybody even heard of a 19 year old without one?)
That's it for today. Happy Sunday!!
P.S. Just a tip for all that still have parents - if they start making noise about moving to a condo from the old family home, ENCOURAGE then to do so while they are in their 70's and strong! If they leave it until health begins to fail, it will be too late, and YOU will be stuck running their household as well as your own. And if they aren't cooperative, you'll be in for a really special treat.
My oh my kae you have your hands full. Well we dropped Vinnie off at the airport at 5 this morning. So while we are a little sad we are also really tired.
Not much on the agenda for us today, we leave for our 2 week trip on friday so I need to start a list of things we may need so I am not packing at the last minute like I usually do. I need to figure out the best place to put Jolene's DVD player for our initial drive to VA. I want to be able to plug it in and listen to my IPOD at the same time...May not be a very easy task.
Anyways, I hope you guys have a great Sunday afternoon/Morning
You know what, thanks for that tip Kae! My inlaws are 80 and 81 and they are OK now, but we live an hour away, and they have an old house and I could see how we'd get stuck with alot of crap, And Ed's sister lives in Ohio....
Thanks, Tina. I'm going to make an appointment for Tuesday. I need da works!
Maybe Ed should start talking to his parents about either making a move now, or at least putting aside funding for a full time live in housekeeper. Just a year ago, both of my parents were independent and fully functional. The deterioration happened SO fast, and all the warning signals were carefully hidden from me by both of my parents! According to the lady at Veterans Affairs Canada (who was amazingly helpful) that is a really common thing for the crafty oldsters to do. I wish I had more knowledge of all of this a few years ago. But all my friends have either lost their parents already or they are much younger than mine. My parents didn't marry until a little later in life because my father was still overseas for 4 years after the war.
Oh, while I'm nattering on about the subject - first signs of loss of coping with life skills can be seen in the cheque books. If there are pages missing, more than the odd voided cheque, funny looking handwriting, skipped notations.... .I wish I'd looked sooner.
Hey, Shelly, can you and Jolene do something to cheer yourserlves up?
I got up early and did yard work. Bleh. My mom and her bf are currently over here moving a bunch of stuff out...they took out the couch, tv and chairs from the living room. I'm going to be living barebones until we move to Wyo. Sheesh! I'm waiting for them to leave so I can sweep, mop and vacuum.
eh, we will be okay. A week from Tuesday we will be in Phoenix and I get to see my mom. Not my husband but on some days just as good. And my sister is moving to VA, so instead of her being a 6 hour flight she will be a 10 hour drive. The thought makes me happy.
Now, I need advice. I have a good friend who suspects she may be pregnant and is having troubles with her skin. I never had this problem so I didnt know to tell her whether it was common. I mean I learned in my nutrition class that pimples are actually caused by hormones not food like I always thought.
So for those of you with more then 1 kid, or anyone with 1 kid....did you have skin troubles. Or do you know of anyone else who did.
When I was pregnant, my skin got these brown patches on my face, but they disappeared right after giving birth. I know they have a name, can't think of it at the moment. Is that what's happening with your friend, or is it an acne flare-up?
My d-i-l has some skin issues, and when she's pregnant, they vanish.
I got up early and did yard work. Bleh. My mom and her bf are currently over here moving a bunch of stuff out...they took out the couch, tv and chairs from the living room. I'm going to be living barebones until we move to Wyo. Sheesh! I'm waiting for them to leave so I can sweep, mop and vacuum.
So when's the scheduled date for departure, Jojo?? Are you getting really excited?
well I think she will be relieved. As if being pregnant isnt stressful enough she has to have bad skin too. That kind of stinks. I lived in dry weather when I was pregnant so I think that may have been why, I dont know.
KaeEll, I am EXHAUSTED from reading your list! I am SO sorry that you're having to juggle all of this.
I lost both of my parents early on, but that left my older sister and me the responsible parties for our GRANDPARENTS! It was a long-distance situation (they lived four hours away), and I can tell you that my sister and I didn't get a good night's sleep for YEARS.
Once things began to detiorate, it was a nightmare. My grandfather was still driving, and shouldn't have been (he was in his late eighties when he died), and he even had an accident at one point. I used to lie awake at night, worried half sick that he might back out of his driveway one day, and over someone's young child he hadn't noticed. My stomach was in knots all the time.
My grandmother, who was into her nineties by this time (she was older than my grandfather), was dead-set against going into any kind of nursing facility. Consequently, we had a series of in-house nurses -- none of whom my grandmother LIKED, of course, and who were fired in rapid succession!
Then, there was the issue of their Wills and their Powers of Attorney (both medical and general). Their Wills had been written in 1952, leaving everything to my mother (their only child). My mother died in 1960! They had no Power of Attorney...
Conveniently, my sister's husband was an attorney, and so he was able to provide new documents. Getting them to SIGN these new documents was another matter entirely, however. Just to add to the dynamics of all of this, my grandmother belonged to a religious sect that I will only say is ENORMOUSLY unpopular with the public (won't name it, but you all probably know what I'm talking about), and her so-called friends were trying to exercise undue influence upon both her and upon my grandfather to leave their lifetime savings, and physical property to THEM instead of to my sister and me because we were not members of that same sect. A total SIN in their eyes...
It was a nightmare.
I could write volumes about what my sister and I went through with all of this, but the bottom line is that it ULTIMATELY worked out in the end, but we had to fight a lot of fires in the meantime including, at one point, literally kidnapping our own grandmother. I'm not kidding either...
But it's a long story, and my fingers are tired!
(PS: Shelly, where in Virginia will your sister be living? I may have asked you this before, but don't remember the answer now...)
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she will be in Virginia Beach. I actually will probably be driving past your neck of the woods either Saturday morning or Sunday morning. I plan to stop in Baltimore and then head down to Va Beach from there.
Please wave at me as you zip through the Alexandria area. LOL... Maybe you'll have a chance to stop on one of your future trips, long enough for us to grab some lunch or something.
It seems that you and I are going to cross paths in the air too, since we're both travelling to Phoenix, but a couple of weeks apart.
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Moore, the power of attorney thing is also on my plate, but every time I try to bring it up, my mother gets all creepy on me, like I'm trying to rob her her of her identity, and my father claims HE has her POA, which isn't true. And their wills are a complicated mess, and in the hands of a shyster who held the wills for two of mom's brothers. It took years to get them settled, so why on earth my parents went to this guy is beyond me.
I'm allowing myself another 20 minutes of goofing off, then I'll go get some things done that are productive, like make up the bed, clean and chop the vegies for dinner, and get dressed! I've been in my nightie all day, tee hee.
Judging from the phone call I just got from my father, looks like this little gal from Guyana isn't going to make it long at the house. Father calls her the human vacuum cleaner as she eats all his ice cream, a mortal sin around there.
yeah..the ice cream would probably be a no go in my house too.
And Moore if you are not still in Phoenix on my return trip I will have to see about stopping for lunch...Heck, maybe if you are even available Sunday I will have to see about it
and there is nothing wrong with spending the day in jammies. Sometimes its just needed
Wow, KaeEll, your list is positively daunting. You are truly a wonderful daughter!
I had a wonderful day. I started it out with doing my weed wacking and then mowing. I love that manicured look. My mother and aunt stopped by. My aunt flew in from Baltimore to spend a few days with my mother. I headed over there around 1:00, and we had a wonderful afternoon, sitting on the deck, and then having some very intense card games of Sevens, which is an old Irish card game that is my favorite. We then had dinner, and I just came in from going for a walk with Tess.
Yesterday I spent some hours bonding with my hairdresser, getting rid of those evil roots, and I had her do a full foil. My hair came out great! I have reached the point of maximum blonde satruation, and next time, September 1st, we will be doing this thing called low lights, actually putting some brown back into my hair, kind of a reverse foiling. I will be toning down the blonde for the cooler weather.
Let's see, I will be dumping my boyfriend this week, he crossed a line, and I am totally livid, but life goes on.
Anyway, I'm glad that everyone had a productive weekend! It goes away much to quickly!
I got up early and did yard work. Bleh. My mom and her bf are currently over here moving a bunch of stuff out...they took out the couch, tv and chairs from the living room. I'm going to be living barebones until we move to Wyo. Sheesh! I'm waiting for them to leave so I can sweep, mop and vacuum.
So when's the scheduled date for departure, Jojo?? Are you getting really excited?
I don't know yet...sometime between Aug. 14 and 29. I'm nervous!
First of all (important things first), I'm interested in what you're doing with your hair. It sounds absolutely GORGEOUS! You MUST post pictures.
As I recall from your daughter's graduation pictures, your hair was sort-of auburn with more red than brown in it. I'm surprised to hear the description of all the blonde!
The low lights sound great; hair is a pesky devil isn't it? I'm so far overdue for putting the blonde back in mine that it's pathetic! My hair grows like a WEED!!! In fact, it grows so fast that I need your darned weed whacker to keep it under control...
My hairdresser has been trying to persuade me to go all-over blonde, and then put in the highlights, but I'm just too darned lazy! I'm sure that it would look great, but I can't spend that much time at the salon. Nor can I spend that much time at the salon that frequently... There was a time, way back in my "youth" when I enjoyed being pampered at the salon, but now it just drives me NUTS! I can't sit still for that long.
But, your hair sounds gorgeous, and we need to see what you've done.
Speaking of "done", I don't know what your boyfriend did, but if you're this upset about it, I say DUMP HIM! Listen to your gut.
KaeEll, you are the BEST daughter...
Nighty-night everyone!
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My hair color transformation began about 16 months ago. My natural color has basically turned into a very boring brown, with about 1/3 gray. I had it died to a dark auburn color until I began the foiling transformation. Originally I had warm caramel highlights put in. The highlights come from a toner. The foils basically strip the color out, and then the toner puts color back in. The toner washes out after eight weeks. I noticed that I really liked it lighter, as the toner began to fade, so that is how I went from warm caramel to blonde.
Over time, even though my hairdresser tries to get the same hair strands, most of my hair has gone to the lighter blonde. My hairdresser and I have had the great debate over my not being able to stand the darker roots, so she has lightened the color that she does my roots with, so that I do not go into the reverse skunk look, and not have to foil the hair every time I go in, so that we do not fry my hair, because foiling is very unhealthy for hair. Hence my morphing into a blonde, and reaching maximum saturation.
I am going to take my camera with me to work, my friend Allan, is going to take some pictures. I am going to try eharmony again, and I do not really have any pictures of me how I look these days. I will post them, and let you know what I look like these days.
Regarding the boyfriend, we'll just say that he turned into a complete scum, and he seriously misjudged me, and has an over-inflated ego. It did not involve other women, I'll just say that he decided that he wants to be an amature photographer. Totally disgusting!
