Well its thursday and another week is almost gone. In fact the first week of the new year is almost gone. What is everyone up to today. I popped in over at SOC and they have their dankies up. It was hard to do since soaps have been less then stellar lately.
Today I am going to go get my Michigan license and finally get my last name changed to my married name. Fun fun, but since I haven't left this house since we got here on Monday aside from venturing outside for snow fun it will be nice to get out. And the town we are going to is a little over 25 minutes away. So lots of time away from home is good.
I went to go write a blog but didn't know what to write about. Any ideas.
As soon as I get back I will post pictures of our adventures into snowiness.
Argh, I have been up since 7 because Vinnie couldn't be bothered to wake up with Jolene and now he tells me we have to get up and get going. Sometimes men are really irritating...
So what will your new last name be, Shelly? Still Kandian, or something else? I didn't officially change my last name until our boys went to kindergarten and discovered how awkward it was having a different last name from theirs. It was ever-so-fashionable back then to keep one's maiden name.
Today is my very last day bumming around fighting off this darn bug. Ted's going to bring inside the Christmas decoration boxes from the garage so I can start taking the balls and such off the tree and get the house back to normal. Enough with the holidays! He can drag the tree carcass out to end of the driveway for collection tomorrow morning. Then it's vacuuming up needles for the next 3 months. Argh.
Shelly, I haven't been outside this house since Christmas Eve!! I've got cabin fever too, big time. It will be so good tomorrow to get out, have my hair done, and if all goes well, Ted and I will go to one of Mike's jazz gigs at that little pub on Roncesvales, Club 403. We like it there and the food is pretty good. He's on from 5 till 8. Early night out - just my speed, lol.
Tina - safe journey and flights. Keep us up to date on the Florida adventures if you can. Most hotels have free high-speed, so we'll look forward to hearing from you. By the way, if you have some Bach's Rescue Remedy, take a good four drops before boarding. It really helps.
Thanks for reminding me of Bach's I'll be half way to the health food store today, I might get some
I feel less worried than usual, maybe because of everything else in my life.
I'm reading a good book too, that will keep my mind occupied.
We are staying at a time share on an island, and everything is expensive. So I have a feeling they will be charging for internet too. Maybe we'll use it one day if the charge is steep.
Gosh I wish my kids would stop fighting!
It's been cold here, but I've been running errands anyway.
It was very strange for me to walk down the aisle of the church I got married in with one name, and emerge with another. I adored my father, who had passed away suddenly two years before I got married, and it felt almost insulting to toss it away my maiden name. Although I am in many ways a very traditional person, somehow that was a tough thing for me to do. Unexpectedly so!!! I never realized that it would be so hard to change my name because I was still who I always was, and that wasn't a "Moore".
On our honeymoon, my husband used to make me call room service so that I could practice saying, "This is Mrs. Moore..." Although I didn't hyphenate my maiden name with Moore, my official signature, and the name that I use on most documents, etc., incorporates my maiden name as my middle name. That way, I can still see it, use it, and feel that it's still mine without creating a confusing hyphenated last name, or go through what you went through, KaeEll, with the kids!
Now that I'm older, and my kids are grown, I love to talk to them about the fact that they're not just Moores, but also carry my family with them too -- and I see traits of that side surface in them frequently! Because they never knew their grandparents on my side, it was a difficult concept for them when they were younger. However, they've also watched me do my genealogy research, so family lineage has been a topic of conversation around here for years!
I don't know what the solution is to this problem. I really don't... Hyphenated names can become ridiculous, and keeping one's maiden name can be confusing.
The FUNNIEST example of making the name switch that I ever witnessed was about thirty years ago when my college roommate (from Toronto, KaeEll) had just remarried. She'd had a small ceremony, and we'd all returned to the house she was sharing with her now-new husband. Within minutes, the phone rang, and she answered it by saying very sweetly, "Janet Cook..."
Ooops. Ex-husband's last name! We all just stared at her. It began to dawn on her what she'd just said, and she shouted into the phone, "McCLEARY!!! Janet McCLEARY...!!!"
New bride, wrong name.
You kind-of had to be there, but it was hysterical...
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Well talk about name switches. My mom was originally Donna Warren (nice easy to remember you know) and switched to Donna Walker when she married my dad. Not much of a change. While they were married my dad got her vanity plates with Donnaw1 on them. Luckily it still worked out for her after the divorce. However she married my step-dad and is now Basalyga. Talk about a tongue twister. People called her Donna Warren just because they didn't want to botch the new last name.
I'm still legally "Karen Leah Norris Field", Norris being my maiden name. Now that I have a daughter-in-law whose legal name is "Karin Elizabeth Field" (yes almost the same but she has an "i' and pronounces her name "car-in", while I am "care-in" with an "e") I find myself using it a little more to avoid confusion. Since we share a dentist, an optometrist and a hairdresser, it got a little dicey there a few times.
One day, just before her baby boy was born, Karin had gone to the dentist to have three fillings - those new fangled ones at the gum line. I had an appointment the next week for the very same procedure, different teeth. Just as the dentist was about to haul over the drill thingy, she glanced at the chart and saw MY name on it, and she flipped out!
Another less dramatic event was at the hairdresser, and Lisa, the owner and our main hairdresser was away on holiday. Karin had gone in for her highlights, and Bella, Lisa's assistant, had prepared the goop that goes on. Good thing Karin noticed that it looked a little different, because Bella was about to plop on her head MY hair preparation, which would have been much too light for her. That's not as jarring as having the wrong tooth worked on, but still, we decided that we needed to make a bigger distinction.
Moore, I like the tradition of including family names as part of a child's given names too. Unfortunately, one prominent family name from my background is "Battye", and I'm not sure my kids would have appreciated that one.
well we have only been married 3 years and I just got it changed today, not too long. My best friend never changed her name and wound up divorcing the guy after 4 years this past summer. Weird huh. Not the reason I waited, mainly it is because i had an Arizona license and we had lived in Maryland and then Connecticut neither state I wanted to have my license from. So I had to wait til we had enough time to come here to Michigan to get it done. So now its done, and I have to get my real license in the mail in a couple weeks. Weird, Arizona just prints your license right there. And since I now am a resident of Arizona I wont be voting for the senators there. So I need to do some research on the people here in Michigan.
Anyways, Tina I hope that you can manage to relax on your flight. Is it a straight flight down? Or will you have a lay over. If its a straight flight then you should take something to knock you out for the whole flight. That always helped me.
Well, we are back in the house and I am a little sleepy with nothing to do so I am off to nap land. Will be back on later though.
I would pick anyone but the Packers. I drove through Greenbay last weekend and it was awesome with my Pats jacket on. Though I am staying in a house full of Bears fans so they like ruffling the Packers fans even more.
I like the Chargers but really want to see the Cowboys and the Pats battle it out. I have a girlfriend who likes the Cowboys but her husband is a Boston anything fan. So that would be really fun for their house.
My maiden name was Churchill. I felt that I always had to spell it and thought my new name would be easier
DeRose
but NO, I still have to spell it. It's a D, like Dog.... e r o s e
Then I changed my son's name to Ryan Churchill DeRose, with Churchill being a middle name, but the dumb SS office used a hyphen so for our income taxes I have to put Churchill-DeRose when we file, just for him!!
I've tried to write them and they just don't get it.
Government office people suck - hope I don't offend anyone
As for the flight, I got the Bach's and a good book, and 3 kids to hopefully distract me!!
You know I kinda feel sorry for Aiden. He's got a ton of names lol. Aiden Ward-Patrick Davis. I wanted to fit something in for my grandpa Ward and my grandma Pat but well I didn't like Patrick for a first name, and my grandpa doesn't have a middle name so I was kinda stuck.
We went to both the SS office up in Escanaba, Michigan and the DMV and both were actually very pleasant events. I am from Phoenix where a trip to either office would have taken hours. But today, including drive time from building to building and trudging in the snow it was still less then an hour. And the people were really nice. I think part of it is because this is a highly populated military retired town and we are a military family. Seems people always get happier when they find out we are military. They had asked for my birth certificate but my military ID was enough. I was thoroughly impressed since after a day at the Phoenix DMV requires some kind of sedative to calm down. Plus in Phoenix you have to go to the SS office and then wait 3 days and then you can go to the DMV. But then my license in AZ didn't expire til I was 65 years old. One of the reasons I didn't want to give up my AZ license.
And as for kids goes, Jolene is a name that is completely not family. On either side. Her middle name is Marie and I am still sure there is not a single Marie or Mary on either side. So our next kid will have first and last name family.
Last names, yikes! I have been divorced three times, so I have actually had four different last names in this life-time, and would you believe that I had three of them in a three year span?
I was born Sullivan, married Gauthier, and kept it at the divorce (my daughter's last name), I then became Cleary, and went back to Gauthier at the divorce. I then became Connor in 2001, in 2003 I went back to Sullivan.
If I ever get married again it is staying Sullivan. It is a nightmare related to paperwork to keep on changing ones last name.....
Tess I hate to admit it but I think that is also part of why I waited so long. After my first marriage I changed it instantly being young and naive. Well we were divorced less then a year later and I was stuck with his last name because being in the military I couldn't get to the DMV in Arizona with enough time to change my name back. Stunk...
Oh and Tess how good it is to see you...How have you been? How was your Christmas?
