Hi guys and gals! I'm so glad it's Sunday! Saturday I spend the day cleaning, hanging up photos, and putting the dining room set together. Well, some of it. I have the chairs assembled, and I need an electric screwdriver to put the seats on. I plan on finishing the table today. Then I'll settle in for some championship football. I'm still devastated my Cowboys were taken out by those nasty Giants last weekend, and my Steelers the weekend before, but I do love football, so I'll manage.
I will also probably make a quick trip to the grocery store for some snacks.
We were up early again, read the papers, had coffee and juice. It's cold here too, Jojo.
This morning it's just bumming around, but then I have to pick up my mother and take her shopping, mind her until about 6 as my father is out all afternoon. I was going to spend the day cooking a big pot of beef stew, but that'll have to wait until tomorrow.
On the soap front, looks like Jessica will get dragged off to St. Anne's and Marcie gets a get out of jail free card. Peh. Oh, I read somewhere that Victoria wakes from her coma on the 28th of January (Y&R), a week form tomorrow. Whew. That took too long.
I want to be lazy, but I'm going to go throw some snacks together for lunch. Jackson wanted lil' smokies and cheese dip, so I shall comply with his request.
apparently Jessica signed something that said should she revert back to being Tess that they could have her committed. And since she is pretending to be Tess, Jared is going to have her committed. And apparently she does something and manages to throw Nash under the bus that is the Buchanans so he isn't going to bail her out. But this is where she meets Alison again and may learn some more family drama. I figure that for once I am interested in the goings on on OLTL and i can't tell you when the last time was that that happened.
Today we went to church. I got Jolene a cute little Patriots cheerleader dress so she wore it today. Good thing we live in New England because everyone just loved it. And found out that our church is having a super bowl party that will take place at one of our Deacon's house so that will be nice, its church related which means there will be no alcohol so that is a relief.
Now I am eating a late lunch and will put Jolene down for her nap soon so that I can get some things done around the house. YAH Vinnie should be home next Sunday...the countdown is on.
We went to the Botox Mecca of Toronto this afternoon, a shopping mall called Bayview Village. It was horrible, couldn't get outta there fast enough! Ugh. All the women are a size zero, bleach blonde and not a soul looks older than 40, not even the grandmothers. I hate that part of town, but the mall was having a huge sale. We left almost right away but not before getting jostled by bargain hunters with no manners. I will NEVER go back there. Mom liked it though.
We tried to be lazy, but with three kids it's not easy. Zach was a big grouch all day, that kid needs major discipline, he is the demon's spawn I swear! But ironically my husband is way easier on zach than he was on Ryan.
Makes my life tough
Oh then we got in a fight because I applied for a PT job and my husband was saying "oh but you quit that other job" And I said it was because he made me quit so he could study. Well funny now, he recalls the whole thing differently!
Oh I hate him some days.
He got drunk and made me quit and now he claims it was all my idea that I didn't like the hours.
Well anyway the new job looks great and pays well for PT, but I really have to wait and see if I even get an interview and what the hours will be and if day care is near by. So it was stupid of him to fight with me, but again alcohol was involved, so what should I expect.
Nothing worse than a stupid alcoholic (with a temper).
There is actually a lot of things worse then a stupid alcoholic. I for one think that violent alcoholics are much worse, and are most certainly not fun to be around. I would rather have a stupid one then one who could kill me and not even remember
Honestly I think that there is a very thin line between all types of alcoholics. It's such a dangerous addiction, and unless one comes to the root of their addiction and gets help they are a danger to themselves and others.
I did a lot of research on addiction for my final paper in com and tied it in with two of my science electives. It's really a biological disease that keeps them drinking after the first sip, one for which there is no drug, surgery, or cure. The oly thing you can remedy is taking that first sip.
Love, hate, anger and sadness when felt in extremes like those caused by the effects of alcohol can so quickly morph into each other. It is such a shame that he can't get help for his problem. It may not save you marriage but I'm confident it would be good for you to see that he's not addicted to alcohol.
my husband won't get help because he thinks he has no problems
But I've been talking with friends and family of his and they all have seen the over-drinking and the temper tantrums.
And I thought everyone would think I was the bitch, but now I see that they probably wonder how I've stayed with him this long.... and that would be my low self esteem.
When I was in my early 20's I thought I was on top of the world and I thought I knew everything too! Then as you get older you realize there's so much to learn, that we continue to learn.
Anyway, I am a strong, confident woman (once again) and I will make it through this. I will never settle again. There was an Oprah show with women who were verbally abused and they said "well at least he doesn't hit me" Ok so don't we all deserve a little better than "at least he doesn't hit me!"
I could stay for financial reasons, but isn't that kind of selling my soul? I think so! I could stay because it's the easy choice. And yet how is this affecting my children. It would be selfish of me to stay. It would be lazy and superficial.
And if you think I have a "good" husband because he pays the bills, well lets just say he really doesn't handle money well at all, and we have no equity in our home!
Oh I could go on and on, the point is I know that I am doing what is right for me, and my children, and I'm sure that everyone here has done what worked in their particular situation.
Lol you know I have seen in Las Vegas and on tv and stuff that some people can get hypnotized for certain bad habits. Maybe we can take your husband into the hypnotist and get a personality make over. Lol take some bad out put a lot of the good in .. oh and of course you'd have to add the hypnotic programming for him to cook and clean, and a fashion sense, but not too much of one. My aunt's friend had a husband with a wonderful fashion sense. He bought the cutest clothes for their kids and her. THenshe found him in a French Maid costume one day ... it gets really intersting after that.
