went to my first Alanon meeting. It was comforting to know I am not alone, that the alcoholics are in deep denial, they don't see how much they hurt their loved ones. So I am not crazy, he does have a problem and he does get really mean. He always tried to play it off like it was all in my head or something. He tried to make me feel guilty and say how he always did everything for me. The alcoholic is a master manipulator and liar. They have everyone, including themselves fooled. It's a scary disease, because unlike cancer, they have to want help. And then, I would guess, it would be a very long road to be healed.
I do feel sorry for him, that he has no control over his life. But I have to think of my children first.
As an alcoholic, he would go to AA. As a family member of an alcoholic I go to a group for such, called Alanon. They have something for teens too, Alateen.
He should be going to some group, but I doubt he is.
I'm taking my son Saturday for a meeting.
It's a great support group for those who have lived with an alcoholic and their abuse, and how it's not anyone's fault but their own
