Good Morning, feels almost warm here. Like Spring is around the corner!
I had a confusing weekend, I'm getting advice from every angle.
My husband is trying to change. He is going to AA, he agrees I did the right thing by kicking him out. He says he'll stay out as long as it takes, and that may be a while....
Total turn around for him! But will it last? Does he feel like he hit rock bottom?
My dad says give him a chance, my mom says divorce him now!!!
Lord help me!
Anyway, we have ballet today, will be back later!!
The contractor was supposed to start today, but that was deferred. No big surprise. It's a warm, balmy 8 degrees here with a little sunshine. But it's just a tease as more snow is on the way.
Yesterday we celebrated my dad's birthday, which is actually today, but not a good day for a get-together. We took the gang out for brunch and had a wonderful time. Mike came for a bit of chicken curry later, then we were off to bed early.
Tina, I'll go out on a limb here and offer this suggestion: listen to your father.
Don't shoot me Tina .. I say well I say kind of both. I don't think you should divorce him right now. I'm big on not closing doors before knowing exactly what will be up.
Anyways it was 71 degrees out yesterday!!! We went to my gram's for dinner. She's having her defib put intoday.
It's supposed to pour here and then change to snow. Yippee lol I'm not loving this. I've got the van today wow it's so nice. In fact I'll have the van most of the time now because hubby's carpool buddy would rather drive her car to work and just have him give her 10 bux because she likes to leave for lunch. I'm so darn happy lol.
We're switching our internet from our ATT to a new company thta started servicing our town. We'll be saving about 20.00 and it'll be considerably faster. I'd keep our cellular internet but now the uggrades to our towers to make the internet faster have been delayed because some dummy overloaded the head here and burnt out the 850 ... ok this makes no sense to anyone but me ... d'oh. Long story short it's just not worht it even after the hub's employee discount. Who knows maybe we'll go back to their service once the switch to 3g is made but no until then.
Sometimes people need a big bitch slap to wake them up to their own stupidity. Clearly your husband didn't get it, and now I think you should wait and see if it sticks. Divorce is a messy business and frankly, if there's a chance he can swing things around and you two can work out whatever you need, there's no reason to swing the axe yet.
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If someone is willing to make the effort to change, then they ought to be given the chance, and the support to accomplish it. These changes don't happen overnight either, especially in the case of an alcoholic. That requires a lifetime of support. Marriage is a serious commitment to deal with the bad, along with the good, and divorce shouldn't be an automatic choice during rough times. Especially when there are children involved... It won't be to anyone's benefit to give Ed the big wake-up call, and when he says that he gets it, to then turn around, and walk away.
KaeEll, that 8 degree weather sounds downright tropical. LOL...!!!
It's nice and sunny here today, and feels like spring.
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I'm inclined to give him a chance, but then I get told I have a "Jesus complex" that I think I can fix him.... but I am not a mean person and can't just cut him off at the knees.
He's not a bad person, but the alcohol is the devil.
I just don't want my heart to get smashed to pieces here.
Alanon is a big help!
As well as venting when I can.
kae what year is your house? Doing the bathroom is a good idea, it always increases the value.
I wonder if Sophia ever decided on an addition to her house.
Shelly, don't worry about a bad weekend, I think it's actually good for a diet because then your metabolism doesn't get too slow.
Tina, we're redoing a bathroom installed in the 80's. We're giving it a more modern look with the granite and all white tiles. This place was built about 50 years ago but gutted and redone about 20 years ago, then more improvements when we bought it.
Anything within the beltways around Toronto is very good investment. I can't speak for suburbs except to say that buying in one of them is a one-way ticket out, unless you win the lottery, lol. Property values out there haven't escalated as they have here, so yes, it is a smart move to renovate.
KaeEll, we had an upstairs hall bathroom completely gutted about six or seven years ago, and redone. It was well worth doing, and only took about a week. The people who did ours were amazingly efficient!
We went with all white, and the larger tiles instead of the little bitsy ones. We also took the tiles around the shower/tub all the way up to the ceiling, and it makes a huge visual difference. We also borrowed just a few inches from a hallway linen closet to put in a longer tub that also has a whirlpool feature, and added a floor to ceiling cabinet between the sink and the potty to make up for the space borrowed in the hall.
-- Edited by Moore ideas at 17:50, 2008-03-03
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You know I just realized I should be pay ing more attention. OUr bathroom right off of the bedroom isn't any where near being completed. We need to do some work on it. I just don't knwo what to do. Lucky for me the walls are literally bare drywall, I love the mirror thing (it looks like something from a movie set lol) I just need a different toilet, sink and I'd love some differnet tiling on the floor.
Jess, the kids at Lainey Lurv are guessing it's Kelly Clarkson because she has gone on record as disliking odd numbers, but I don't think she's all that diva crazy from what I've seen, although the slimming mirrors could tip the scales in her direction. Did Lainey eliminate Beyonce, because she'd be my guess?
Can you even imagine that kind of behaviour? Good grief!!!
Hey all! What a crappy day it was! Glad it's over.
All this renovation stuff has me in the mood to renovate! I'd like to get some new carpet and a new kitchen floor! As small as my apartment is, I could get a good deal at the Home Depot.
Tina, this is one of those times the head and the heart collide. Follow both of them. Make sure your children are safe, but also maybe give it a little time. Make sure Ed's turnaround sticks.
JoJo -- I don't know what the floors underneath your carpet are made of, but if they're wood or something attractive, I suggest that you look into getting remnant carpeting, and have it bound.
I did this for years, and became almost addicted! LOL... When we first moved into our house, we put wall-to-wall throughout, even though we had nice floors. Once it was time to rip everything up (one room at a time), and show the floors, I had kids, wasn't working anymore, etc., etc., and didn't want to spend a fortune on rugs. I also knew that the area carpets in the kids' rooms were going to get junked up fairly quickly (and they did), so I didn't want see that happen to something really expensive.
Go to a local carpet dealer, and go directly back to where they have the end runs of their wall-to-wall stuff. They're marked down because there is no longer enough to be used as wall-to-wall, but there's usually a wide variety of pile, and color. If you find something that you like, and it's too big, just ask them to cut it for you, and then have all of the edges bound so you won't get little fibers falling off.
My one splurge was an absolutely GORGEOUS oriental carpet for our living room, which I still have and adore, but I got it at a deep discount from an oriental rug dealer who was going out of business. I also have a beautiful runner in my upstairs hall but -- again -- I took advantage of a major sale. LOVE this rug too. Otherwise, it's remnants for me, baby!!!
I just love to find a bargain on good stuff...
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