In a town nearby, 4 teens were killed in a drinking and driving crash at 2:20 a.m. (ages 14 - 17) Five others were injured badly. I called in to the Open Line of our local paper asking why their parents didn't exercise a little thing called a curfew! I had one. How about you?
Bottom line, they shouldn't have been drinking and yes why wasn't your kid home earlier then that? But number two, shouldn't you have taught your kids not to ride with those that drink? Where was that lesson?
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what I heard on the radio was that the oldest girl drove (21) but was just as impaired, maybe she thought she was fine. Also they had 9 kids in the car
my parents always told me if you need a ride home, call no matter what. At least the discussion of drinking and driving was brought up in our home.
I had such an early curfew though, but I think now I'm glad I did. Nothing but trouble comes to teens who stay out late, such as pregnancies, STD, and accidents. Parents think they are being a cool parent by allowing their kid to party and stay out late. But to me that's just a bad parent! You can't be there friend and you can't worry if they are going to feel excluded, they're too young to make adult decisions.
w/o a doubt it's a tragedy, however blaming the parents is wrong.
you can teach your children all the right things....don't drink, do drugs, ride w/people who are drining, overload the car, obey curfew. i think the marjority of parent DO try to do that. however, we all have free will. kids constantly & consistantly CHOOSE to ignore all those *right* things we teach them. once they are out the door it's all up to them.
we can teach, teach & teach.....but once they step out into the world it's all in their hands.
kris
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I can understand what you are saying, but I would not allow my 14 year old to be out until 2:20 am. The kids were supposedly bowling?! Who's job was it to get them in the house by say 11pm? Someone shirked responsibility there. And as a mom I'd be damn sure I know where my kid is at 2am.
My son is only 13, I can't imagine him being in a situation like that. He still goes to bed at 9! And if he stays the night at a friend's house, I know the mom very, very well. She is as strict as I am or he doesn't go.
It only takes a few small measures to save their lives. I think all parents can learn a valuable lesson from this, as tragic as it is. The kid's brains are not fully developed to make long term decisions that is why we still have to act like a parent when they don't want us to.
I'd like to know who supplied the alcohol as well, that parent should definitely go to jail! Kid's will drink sure, but should the parent buy the liquor?
another example of a parent trying to be a Friend, not a parent.
