Do any of ou guys have one of those "hopeless friends". You know, someone who either is constantly driving you nuts, or is always getting in trouble, or always has some kind of drama, but you can't help but still care about them.
Well, Floyd's hopeless friend is now also my hopeless friend. I feel so bad for this guy, even though sometimes he makes his own trouble. Well, his latest problems are actually not his fault. Well, kinda I mean one of the latest problems oh lordy help this poor boy). Last month his son's mother (and his first ex-wife) passed out and was rusthed to the hospital for what was said to be an ovary rupture because she had a tumor on it. Well, we are just finding out that it wasn't that. In fact it was from an ectopic pregnancy and the tube ruptured as a result. Just before that happened they had reconciled for a little while, then she decided she just didn't want to be with him anymore (she has some mental issues to resolve she's not nuts but you know depression or anxiety something like that). Well, the only man she'd been with other than him has had a vasectomy. So the baby was Scott's. Things had been going so well for him. He's got a great new job, and got himself a penis envy truck (you know a big big truck that screams "Hey I'm compensating") Honestly the truck was a bit too expensive for my tastes but if it makes him happy what can we do, and hopefully this job will be perfect for him and the money will cover those over 600.00 payments. I am just praying that he doesn't spiral out of control or anything. He is fighting with depression of his own and I know first hand from when I was younger and had postpartum that one small thing can set someone off very easily. Soooo I was just hoping you all could do me a favor (and Scott too lol) and send all your good thoughts, energy , and/or prayers his way.
OH gees here i am talking about all of my friend's issues when I meant to ask about you guys ...
I had a hopeless friend once, but after she crossed a line, I had to cut her out of my life, and I'm glad that I did.
When a troubled friend comes to me for advice and support, fine. But if that friend constantly ignores the advice when they've begged for help, I become a doormat, and I won't do that any more.
I understand what you are saying, Kae. I have one friend who incessantly complains about her on/off boyfriend--he verbally abuses her quite a bit. She is always asking for advice about him. Just yesterday, she asked for more advice, after I thought they had broken up "for good." I told her to never speak to me about him again...I'm done doling out advice that she's not going to take. Uggh. I hate this guy.
i HAD a friend like that. she would call me constantly asking for advice about her bipolar daughter. i'd spend hours on the phone w/her discussing various options medically, behaviorally & education~wise. she never once acted on a think i suggested.....not once. oh & she used to do this to another mutual friend.
finally i had had enough. she called & went into her usual routine. i finally asked her why she asked for my opinions & advice since she had never acted on one, single suggestion i had made. i do believe that was the last time we spoke on the phone. she was a *board friend* & i don't respond to her posts anymore either.
i refuse to engage in other people's drama. just don't have the energy.
if i were you...and only b/c he's your hub's friend...is do a lot of sympathetic uh hums...oh gee!, etc., etc.
kris
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