This could explain the high divorce rates of today. If a whole generation of men grew up in homes where those guidelines were followed (as did my father, and my husband, who is several years older than me), their expectaions could be a little unrealistic by today's standards.
Unfortunately we now have a flipside to this. Little girls that grew up with the Disney princess dream scenarios are also divorcing too. Unrealistic expectations on both sides. No wonder why people just live together. Easier to break up
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Everyone is on crack!!! That's my belief. Granted men are good and all, girls are wonderful and should value themselves but come on!!! I mean gees it's like wanting to marry your mommy. Who the heck wrote this!?
LOL, this one really is great! One of my friends sent it to me a few months ago, and I forwarded it to a few friends, and my friend who I kinda ahem, date..... I was over his house a few weeks later, and the silly man had it on his fridge, and said that he's going to have it framed an put in his bar when it's done!
Mr. Perfect started to become Mr. Imperfect from that point on.......
I actually commented that I clearly understood why he is divorced, and why I have managed to wrack-up three of my own! His from misconceptions, and mine for non-compliance!
LOL. Non-compliance eh.... lol. And how many cars and houses have you scored there Tess? Sounds like there's some severe penalties there.
Would you believe zero? The first divorce was when I was 20, although I did get the tv, and baby furniture. The second was when I was 22, he emptied out my bank account. The third was four years ago, he emptied out the bank accounts, the house and my daughter's college fund. He tried to get half of the equity in the house, but since I had owned it for twelve years prior to the marriage, he did not get any of it. I was the primary breadwinner in the house, he was paying $600.00 a week child support. I was self-employed those days, as a database architect, so I made a pretty significant income.
Thank goodness his alimony request was denied because it was only a 1 1/2 year marriage. I did not go after anything from him, and I was able to track some serious amounts in missing funds, I just got my divorce and started saving and putting my daughter through college from scratch. I obtained his signature on the dotted line, and went on with my life. He's still living with his mother, feeling sorry for himself, counting his money. He was 12 years older than me, so in retrospect it's just as well, he's worried about retirement, and I'm worried about not having enough laughter and smiles in my days!
Everything that I own was acquired through working. Funny enough I have a really bad taste in my mouth related to marriage, although I'm still young enough to do it again, and probably will, although if I do it again, we'll sign a prenup and get all the financial crud taken out of the equation before doing it!
I think my husband has the 50's mentality. He doesn't come out and say he expects me to be a certain way, but he doesn't lift a finger for any household chores at all, he leaves his dirty clothes on the floor, I pick them up, launder them and iron. I also make the beds, vacuum and wash all dishes, clean bathrooms and floors. I also am the only one to ever clean the garage and basement!
He acts helpless, it would take him an hour to wash dishes that would only take me 10 minutes, so I get impatient and do it.
I understand that he works but I'd love a little help.
He will never change though, I've learned that the hard way. And I am too much of a neat freak to go on strike for very long.
My friends have maids, I'd love to have someone come in once and week and do the big stuff!
I have to say that my husband is actually great about housework ... well compared to most guys i mean. For the longest time, he tried giving me the whole I worked all day and am too tired to do anything now. He works at a call center dang it and now that he got promoted to tech he does even less. So I told him that unless he wants me to go back to work and he can stay with the kids all day and do all the house work. Well, he tried one day alone with the kids and I was sick in bed, he decided that he didn't want that. He's pretty good with kitchen work and all though because his mom died when he was young, and he took care of her for the longest time when she was sick. SO yeah he's learned that there is no 50's wifey here.
