My new dilemna

shellyinphx · Long Lost DiMera Daughter

My new dilemna

KaeEll · Original Soap Dish Diva

What are the other options? Surely to goodness he has an alternative since you're expecting two new babies pretty soon. Would there be a huge upside to having him so far away for a whole year, such as a fat bonus you two could put to good use?

Then there's the consideration of how Sharon would really feel about having 4 of you invade her space for 12 months. I'm sure she says she'd love it, but remember what happened to our Jojo when she moved to Wyoming and stayed with her brother and his bride, both who said they'd just love having her with them.

Oh, and Shelly, did you find out what sexes your babies are last week? You said you and Vinnie would open the envelope together last Friday. What did it say?

shellyinphx · Long Lost DiMera Daughter

Well, when/if we move to VA we will be renting a house of our own. So we wouldn't be in the same space as Sharon. Just the same town. Though I think that once her lease is up she would wind up moving in with us. Her apartment isn't big enough for me+3. And I want a yard.

And, I don't know about a bonus. But he would have 12 months of tax free pay. What he makes that year will pay off a lot of bills which with 2 babies would be nice.

And no, we didn't find out what they were. Both babies were being shy at the ultra sound. I have an appointment with the OB next Thursday and hopefully he will schedule me another Ultra sound. I am getting anxious.

-- Edited by shellyinphx at 09:57, 2009-01-29

Moore ideas · Moore Ideas Not More Ideas!

What a decision! Like KaeEll, I'm curious to know what your other choices are.

KaeEll · Original Soap Dish Diva

Oh, that does make a difference. I had envisioned you and the kids moving into Sharon's place. Would the navy find you a place on the base in Virginia so you could have a community of friends in the same boat (so to speak)?

I don't know, Shelly. It doesn't sound like an ideal arrangement. Two babies at the same time is quite a handful. They will be waking up for feedings in the middle of the night, and Vinnie would be able to take care of the one while you take care of the other. Sharon wouldn't be able to do that for you in the same way with the same commitment, as kind and helpful as she is, it would be an awful lot to ask of her.

Was Vinnie offered an alternative to Bahrain?

shellyinphx · Long Lost DiMera Daughter

He didn't give me any, which means I think they might be worse. He knows I don't want to go to Hawaii and I think that may be one of our only options. I don't want my kids to go to school there. I want them on the east coast. That is another plus, if we go to VA they have like the top 5 schools in the country.

Oh and no to Navy housing. I have been told that Navy housing in Norfolk is horrendous. So I think I will rent a house in the Virginia Beach area. I can see so many pluses with this. I mean I would have a baby sitter for the twins who I trusted. Plus I actually have a lot of friends down there too. And a good church.

-- Edited by shellyinphx at 10:35, 2009-01-29

KaeEll · Original Soap Dish Diva

How long do you have before giving a decision, and how long would the posting in VA last? If Hawaii is indeed an option, would you be stuck there so long that Jolene and the twins would be enrolled in elementary school there? (Forgive me for being unfamiliar with navy stuff.)

That really is a terrible dilemma!

shellyinphx · Long Lost DiMera Daughter

Well Jolene could start school in the fall *sniff sniff*. But if we move to VA I will hold her back a year. The twins would not be old enough but Jolene is. And to be honest, she is a really smart kid, I don't want the Hawaii schools to ruin it. I would only be in VA "alone" for a year. And then hopefully he will be able to get orders there. Because right now there isn't anything available for his job and rank. And he hates his command here in CT, I can't make him stay here. And after this winter I am not sure I want to. On the other hand, if I could take Sharon into moving back to Phx then I could just be at home that year. That would rock, but she won't do it. Not until she gets her license.

shellyinphx · Long Lost DiMera Daughter

BTW Kae, how did yesterday go. Was it a good show?

KaeEll · Original Soap Dish Diva

OMG, Shelly, it was absolutely fantastic. I was so surprised that I would enjoy it as much as I did, and Ted did too. My dad seemed to like it and my poor little mother just sat there asleep.

Burke Moses played the part of Baron Von Trappe. Do you remember him from OLTL? Gorgeous man and what a voice!! In fact, all the players were just wonderful. Even though we all of us knew the story and all the songs from years and years back, it was a super duper production and it all came to life again.

But we had a blizzard and the driving was "lots of fun". We couldn't take my parents on the subway so we had to drive. It took us 2 hours to get home. Ugh. It's usually a 25 minute drive from our house to the downtown theatre district.

Anyway, I'd highly recommend this Mirvish production of The Sound of Music to anyone, old and young and in between. For a change, it was something uplifting.

shellyinphx · Long Lost DiMera Daughter

So glad you enjoyed it. I know I absolutely love the movie, so seeing it live would be awesome

Moore ideas · Moore Ideas Not More Ideas!

KaeEll, it sounds like you had quite a time! That's great that you had the chance to see such a good show, and then had the additional "excitement" of the drive. Who was Burke Moses on OLTL? If he was on before 1988, I wouldn't remember him...

Shelly, why are you thinking of keeping Jolene back a year if you move to Virginia? She's so active and curious that school seems like the very best thing for her.

shellyinphx · Long Lost DiMera Daughter

I think that in Virginia she won't have a choice. The cut off in CT is December 31st. But I think that in VA it is September. And even if we can get her in she will be starting school here and then a month later will be moving to another school. I just don't want to do that to her in her very first year of school.

Moore ideas · Moore Ideas Not More Ideas!

Ahhh...

I ran into that problem with my son whose birthday is November 22nd, and I was also in the same boat with a November 3rd birthday.

My son and I were always younger than most others in our classes. My sister was a November 30th birthday, but I think my mother started her a year later.

It's too bad that your move couldn't happen after Jolene's birthday. That way, I think she be a straight-forward transfer student.

KaeEll · Original Soap Dish Diva

I don't remember him on OLTL at all, so I mustn't have been watching then either. I would have remembered this one!

Pic and brief bio of Burke Moses

Shelly, I was just talking to my d-i-l about your dilemma and her response was that Hawaii would certainly be a better solution because keeping the family together ought to be top priority. (For whatever it's worth.) She has to go it alone often because Tony travels so much and she said that twins would be a real hardship as a single parent. The schooling thing could be adjusted as time goes along but having the family together can't be re-done. She has a solid point, again, for whatever it's worth.

shellyinphx · Long Lost DiMera Daughter

This is a very tough decision, because I also have to think of his career...And I think that Bahrain would be good for his career. Would likely help him make chief which is something we need desperately and if Vinnie continues to do the same job over and over then he won't ever be recognized by the people who select chiefs (did you guys know that Navy chiefs were appointed by congress). And the pay raise from E-6 to E-7 is big. And would allow us to do more then 20 for retirement, which would come in handy since at 20 years we will still have little ones in the house. I think I will wait and ask my mom too, his mom is on vacation so she doesn't know. She is enjoying the warmth in Florida.

Moore ideas · Moore Ideas Not More Ideas!

This is why I would make a terrible military wife!! I can't even decide what I want to eat for lunch...

Shelly, you make a very good point about what's important for Vinnie's career, and I'm sure my husband would agree with you. His father was a Colonel in the Air Force, and Base Commander in a couple of locations. Towards the end of his career, he turned down an assignment for the sake of his family, and was moved to the Pentagon. While he'd been a the fast-track to becoming a general, he never did receive a star, after turning down that one assignment, while those he used to command did...

shellyinphx · Long Lost DiMera Daughter

and with 3 kids, we really need to get Chief....We have 8 years left til retirement. If we make chief then we could make it up to master chief and spend much more then the 20 in if he/we decide.

I already told his mom once that if he really wanted to go somewhere I wouldn't say no. I guess I make for an okay navy wife. This would be better then when he was out to sea because we could talk to him. And even see him if we get those camera things

jojolin · The Naughty Bad Girl

Wow, what big decisions you have, Shelly. I'll think lots of good thoughts, and whatever you decide I'm sure will be the best for you. Keep us posted.