About 22 years ago an old childhood friend had a baby with another friend of ours, and I use the word friend VERY lightly as the father of this child did Ted and me an enormous disservice, really an unforgivable one, but that's another story. Since that time, Ted and I have wanted absolutely nothing to do with this man and so far we haven't. This mother of the daughter born, and said evil horrid jerk split up before the baby was ever born and moved away to another city not very far away. She had made a deal with her child's father that he would have no contact with his daughter at any time and in return he would have to pay nothing in support. The guy's a money grubbing piece of sh*t. They did a paternity test, btw, and he was indeed the father.
Flash forward to the present. Last week I was talking to a dear old family friend who called me for the usual updates on my mother. This lovely lady was our next door neighbour and was also the cottage neighbour of bad guy's family. One of my best friends is also married to evil jerk's brother. Evil jerk's parents were also in the same cocktail party circuit as my parents, lovely lady and the grandmother of daughter born 22 years ago. One big happy family. So as lovely 90 year old lady and I were chatting away, she asked me whatever happened to the daughter and her mother, and did evil jerk ever meet his only offspring. Of course, I had some idea, but nothing concrete. And then today, at the urging of my friend married to EJ"s brother (she can not stand him either) I found this 22 year old girl on Facebook.
Now bear in mind that this girl's mother is a nutbar, always was, always will be. She was a pathological liar and a terrible leech and the only reason that she even came back into our lives as an adult is because of the long history. I really should have known better, but that's done. So EJ's sister-in-law, ( the dear friend of mine, same person) want to somehow put this 22 year old in touch with her biological father. We are most certain that the mother of the girl has told her an outrageous lie about her paternity because she has done absolutely nothing to contact her father and he has not made himself obscure, to say the least. He has a relatively high profile around here.
Anyway, I'm not going to do anything else. I called my friend and told her what I found on Facebook and she said she'd take it from there. Oh, and I have not had any contact with the 22 year old girl's mother at all since she moved away. There was a tacit understanding that I'd had quite the bellyful of her dramatics and wanted nothing more to do with her.
It just seems all so unbalanced for a young woman not to want to know her biological father. It seems so, I'm not sure, but as I said, as tempted as I am, I'm not going to do anything else.
Oh, one last detail. Evil jerk recently married his long time live in, a hideous shrew of a woman. She would go ballistic if this daughter were to make herself known to her husband. She would HATE it.
What do you think? Am I wise to do nothing? I think I've already done a little too much. I've nudged karma , and that can be dangerous, lol.
IMMEDIATELY call the producers of either AMC or OLTL and tell them you can finally offer them an interesting storyline!!
No, I think that if your friend (the sister-in-law to the jerk biological father) has said she'll take it from here, then you've done your part. It's a sad story, and it sounds as though the poor 22-year-old didn't stand much of a chance in the parental lottery if her mother is a nut, and her father is too greedy to pay any support all these years.
But, she does have an aunt by marriage who now has the girl's Facebook information, through you, so maybe she'll know what to do since she's still tied to all of these people.
Seriously though, you need to insist that she keep you posted so that, in turn, you can keep US posted. This is more complex (and believable) than anything I've watched on the soaps lately!
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-- Edited by Moore ideas at 22:34, 2009-02-16
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Thanks, guys. I will for sure let you know what happens. This young woman has a LARGE family that she has no contact with at all. There are aunts and uncles and cousins galore in both Canada and the US. She's from a fairly prolific tribe. Her mother was adopted, found her own birth parents and moved to the city where they all live, so it seems only right for her daughter to be allowed to have the same information, non? Unfortunately, I'm more fuelled by revenge than justice here, so that's why I think it's best for me to back way off.
Facebook is a scary thing. It so happens that this time it served a purpose, but there are plenty of stories I could tell that prove it to be less beneficial. Please be careful out there, okay?
