I am officially divorced. Everything is all wrapped up and settled and it's going just how I had wanted from the beginning. After the last hearing and setting up of visitation, I had a talk with Floyd and let him know how foolish he was being. HE agreed completely. Admitted he was in the wrong and by the time we were heading to court he didn't know how to undo the dumb shit he had done. SO we sat down and talked.. I told him that I never wanted to take his children away from him, didn't want his money for child support (he doesn't have any anyways) and never wanted to force him into being a weekend father. He apparently has gotten on medication and realized he was a psychological mess when he pulled the crap. I agreed to allow him joint custody he has to pay half of all education costs, cover their insurance and health expenses, pay half of all extra curricular fees, must live in the same school district as I do. I get all income taxes this year to help cover the expenses accrued, he has to keep me and Cody on his insurance until next year.. it's fair all around more or less .. the kids are happy and home but still see their father . We are going to have one week with me one with him . again he has to be living close by or I get full custody. My family and a few friends don't understand how I could be so generous to him.. but I want to have as amicable a divorce as possible and do this the best way for the kids.. court and fighting is not the way to go. I really think this is the best for everyone involved.
Anywho all is going great now .. still looking for a new place Not so sure I can swing rent here all on my own, but we'll see and I am going to see about getting some help from the state with rent and all that good stuff. Anyway I'll ttys these kiddos wanna watch some HSM 3
That's great news Jess. You are being the better person, and all for the sake of your children. I'm not going to condemn you for allowing him partial custody. If you think in your heart and mind it is the right thing to do, then good for you! I'm just glad you have been reunited with the kiddos!
Wow, thank you for coming in and letting us know what has been going on. We have been wondering. Thank goodness he finally realized what an idiot he was being. And honestly I can't blame you for being willing to give him a chance with the kids. Its hard to take a child's father away and I give you props for not making this harder on them then it needs to be.
Anyways, Congrats to you. Bet its nice having the kids home eh
It has been good. I might even get to go back to my overnights. GOing to days is losing me 120.00 each paycheck in shift differential. He's agreed to work with me so I might be able to get on my old shift once another shift bid comes around.
I'm sure this must be a huge relief to you! I had no idea that a divorce could be accomplished so fast. Wow... Congratulations, and thanks for letting us know. I hope that your life will begin to smooth out now, and that you and the kids will find some peace and happiness.
-- Edited by Moore ideas on Wednesday 25th of March 2009 09:57:15 AM
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